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Five Types Of Mothers

We all know our mothers are special, but did you know that there are five distinct types of mothers? That’s right – from the perfectionist to the first, each mother has her own unique strengths and legacies. So, what’s your mother’s type?

If your mother is a perfectionist, she likely expects a lot from you – but it’s only because she wants you to succeed. This type of mother is always pushing you to be your best, and while her high standards can be tough to meet, they’ll ultimately help you reach your full potential.

On the other hand, if your mother is unpredictable, she may be a bit of a loose cannon – but that’s part of her charm. This type of mother is spontaneous and fun-loving, and while she may not always be reliable, she’s never boring. You never know what she’ll do or say next!

Then there’s the best friend’s mother, who is always there for you – no matter what. She’s your confidante and cheerleader, and she’ll always give you good advice (even if you don’t want to hear it). You can always count on her to be in your corner.

THE PERFECTIONIST MOTHER

There’s nothing like a perfectionist mother to make you feel like you can do nothing right. She’s always critical, always looking for ways that you could improve, and she never seems to be satisfied. It’s no wonder that children of perfectionist mothers are hypercritical of themselves.

They grow up feeling like they can never measure up, always falling short in their mother’s eyes. No matter what they do, it’s never good enough. As a result, they often end up feeling inadequate and emotionally empty.

So if you’re the child of a perfectionist mother, know that you’re not alone. And try to cut yourself some slack – your mother is probably never going to be happy with anything you do, so you might as well just do what makes you happy.

Being the child of a perfectionist mother has its difficulties. On the plus side, you can have a strong sense of commitment in relationships and are responsible in everything you do. You also value hard work and persistence as core character qualities.

However, all of this comes at a price. You’re often expected to be perfect, which can be an unrealistic and impossible standard to live up to.

You may also find yourself constantly comparing your accomplishments to those of others, which can lead to feelings of inadequacy. But perfectionism isn’t all bad.

Ultimately, it can drive you to achieve great things – even if it means making a few mistakes along the way.

Emotional legacy: You always feel that the opinions of others are far more important than your own. You also often have a heightened sense that the world is watching and judging you.

If you had an unpredictable mother, you probably know that her mood swings could be downright exhausting. She was always either emotional or angry, and it was never clear what would set her off.

UNPREDICTABLE MOTHER

If you had an unpredictable mother, you probably know that her mood swings could be downright exhausting. She was always either emotional or angry, and it was never clear what would set her off.

As a result, her parenting style was based purely on her mood of the moment. This type of mother is the most chaotic of the five types. She creates problems, issues, and crises in her mind, through her emotions and relationships, and passes them on to her children.

Fortunately, children of an unpredictable mother often inherit her excellent people skills. You are usually great motivators, offering emotional support to colleagues as well as friends and family.

However, you may also suffer from some of the emotional legacy left by your mothers, such as anxiety or insecurity. But if you can learn to channel your empathy in positive ways, you will be able to overcome anything that life throws your way.

Emotional legacy: Growing up with an ingrained need to take care of people and their emotional issues, emotions can overwhelm you such as anger, anxiety, and depression. You also learn early on how to read people and situations in order to manage the powerful feelings of others.

THE BEST FRIEND MOTHER

If you’re looking for a best friend, steer clear of the mother-figure type. A best friend mother enjoys treating her children as equals in order to avoid the responsibility of setting boundaries. This mother believes her life would be over if she embraced motherhood, so avoids that role. Instead, both child and parent assume the role of emotional confidante and partner, leaving the child effectively motherless.

“In this situation, the emotional needs of the mother are so consuming, she has to rely on the child to meet them,” says Poulter.

So if you’re looking for a best friend who can offer advice, support, and unconditional love, look elsewhere – preferably someone who doesn’t share your DNA.

Being the child of a best friend’s mother has its pros and cons. On the plus side, you understand the importance of boundaries between parents, children, colleagues, and families.

Because of your sense of motherlessness, you know often that you take the lead and assume the responsible role as an adult. However, emotional legacy can be a negative consequence of having a best friend’s mother.

You may feel emotionally neglected with a fear of rejection. You can also be resentful in relationships, feeling unloved and under-appreciated.

If you can learn to let go of your resentment and bitterness, being the child of a best friend’s mother can be a strength in your life.

Emotional legacy: You may feel emotionally neglected with a fear of rejection. You can also be resentful in relationships, feeling unloved and under-appreciated.

ME-FIRST MOTHERS

Children of me-first mothers frequently grow up feeling neglected and unimportant. These mothers often cannot see their children as separate individuals, instead of viewing them as extensions of themselves.

This can lead to several problems, including emotional neglect and a fear of rejection. In addition, children of me-first mothers often take on the responsible role in relationships, feeling that they need to take the lead in order to be loved.

As a result, they can grow up feeling resentful. However, it is important to remember that every mother is different and that there are many ways to be an excellent mother.

Just because your mother was a me-first doesn’t mean that you have to be one, too.

Emotional legacy: You doubt your own decision-making abilities. You find it difficult to trust your own feelings on any matter because you view your mother’s opinion as more powerful than your own.

THE COMPLETE MOTHER

The complete mother is a bit of a myth. She doesn’t actually exist. But she’s the ideal that we all strive for. The me-first mother is the opposite of that.

She’s self-centered, and she puts her own needs above her children’s. She’s emotionally unavailable, and she’s unable to see her children as individuals.

This mother is only experienced by about 10 percent of us. But she’s the one that we all strive to be. The complete mother is the best of all worlds.

She’s emotionally balanced, she can see her children as individuals, and she’s able to help them achieve their own independence.

She’s not perfect, but she’s committed to motherhood. And that makes all the difference.

Emotional legacy: You will have the ability and insight to appreciate that other people, colleagues, and family members have their own perspectives. You’ll be able to navigate the challenges of becoming independent and won’t feel emotionally enmeshed with your mother.

How well do you get along with your mother?

Happy Mother’s Day to all the mothers out there!

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