It can be a devastating experience when you realize that someone you love doesn’t share the same feelings as you. In fact, breakups are one of the most difficult things to do. As much as we would like to believe that everyone else has it bad too, most people don’t have a simple answer for why their significant other is no longer in their life. In fact, some might not even know what they did wrong. After all, breaking up with someone is never easy and requires a lot of self-honesty. However, breaking up with your partner isn’t the end of the world, either. Here are 10 things to remember whenever you decide to end your relationship:
You’re not alone
Breakups can be incredibly isolating. It’s natural to want to slip inside a bubble where you can cry alone with no one judging you. However, it’s important to remember that you’re not alone. There are people who have been there before you, who understand, and who want to help you get through this. Whether it’s a friend, a teacher, or a counselor, there are people who want to lend a hand. Reach out to them and let them know you need them.
You’re breaking up because of your values.
Before you call up your ex or rush into an online conversation with them, take a step back and think about what you’re actually trying to communicate. The first step to truly understanding what went wrong is to understand why it went wrong. Even if you think you do not know why you broke up with your partner, remember that you broke up with them because of your values. There’s no other reason for it. Now is the time to unpack all of that. Figure out what went wrong in your relationship, why it went wrong, and how you can fix it next time.
Don’t rush the process
The last thing you want to do is rush into a breakup. Breaking up with someone you love is never easy. If you’re going through with this, it means you want to put some distance between yourself and your partner. No matter how much you want to rush it, you’re going to need some time to process what just happened and to figure out how you want to move forward. Hiding behind a keyboard or using social media to text your ex will not give you the space you need to consider your options without feeling pressured.
Stay close with your friends and family
The best thing that you can do when you decide to break up with your partner is to stay close to your friends and family. Whether it’s your bestie or your mom, having a support network is one of the best things you can do for yourself. Your loved ones might not know what you’re going through, but they love you. They’re going to be there for you no matter what. They’re also the ones who probably get you the most.
Take a step back and re-evaluate your relationship
Breaking up with your partner is never easy, but it’s especially hard when there’s some serious discord between you two. Whether it’s because you realized you were wrong for each other or that you just don’t see things the same way anymore, take a step back and evaluate your relationship. If you find that you really don’t want to be with your partner anymore, then you should break up with them. However, if you just want a bit of space or a break, try to give each other some room to breathe and reevaluate your relationship.
Keep in touch with the people you care about
Breaking up with your partner is going to be extremely painful, and you’re going to feel a million different things. The best way to handle this is to stay close to the people you care about. Whether it’s your friends or your family, surround yourself with people who love and support you. This is the best way to process what just happened and to heal from this experience.
Remember that the breakup isn’t permanent. No one is irreplaceable.
Even though this breakup is going to be tough, don’t think about it as a permanent thing. No matter how long you’ve been with your partner, you will not be with them forever. Yes, it’s going to be really hard to let go, but you’re going to have to do it. It’s not fair to yourself or your partner to stay with someone who doesn’t want the same things as you do.
Every relationship has its difficulties. Find out what makes each of you tick so that you can build on your strengths next time around.
Even the most amazing relationship has its difficulties. Breaking up with someone you love isn’t something that happens overnight. It’s not a random act that happens when you’re out of options or that has no rhyme or reason behind it. It happens because of something that you did, something that your partner did, or something that both of you did.
The key to finding love again is to be yourself when looking for someone new.
There’s a lot of pressure to find someone new and fall in love immediately. It’s important that you take your time when finding a new partner. If you rush the process, you might end up with someone who isn’t the right fit for you. You should aim to find someone who makes you happy, who brings out the best in you, and who makes you laugh. Even if you don’t find someone new immediately, try to meet new people regularly so that you’re not in a rut and you have options should someone catch your eye.
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