Everyone knows (or fears) the cliché: you can’t trust anyone. To know this is true means that you have probably experienced it in your life. Therefore, clichéd sayings are popular because they are so true that even if you have never felt them, you will understand what it means by reading other people’s experiences and responses to such a statement. But clichés aside, there might be some truth behind those sentences. We all fear loneliness and rejection more than anything else. If we don’t know how to handle these two emotions, we become anxious and lose confidence in ourselves. If we know how to handle them, however, we value the positive people around us more than anything else in our lives. The ones who help us feel less lonely and less rejected – which is why they become so important to us – or the ones who aren’t afraid of telling us when they see something stupid or just not worth the time that we have put into getting to know them – which is why they become so important to us too.
What do you value in your friends?
Foremost, you value your friends because they are there for you when you need them. No one can replace a friend, and you’re lucky to have so many people in your life who care about you and will support you. Now that we have that out of the way, we can get into the key aspect: What do you value in your friends? Let’s look at these three primary aspects of friendship: Companionship, acceptance, and caring. – Companionship: When you are with friends, you can talk to them and be yourself. You can ask them questions and get a different perspective than you do when you are alone. This allows you to expand your mind and grow as a person. – Acceptance: You accept friends just as they are. You don’t expect them to change just because you like them better that way. You don’t expect them to become your perfect friend just because you want them to be. You just accept them for who they are. – Caring: You care about your friends. You put effort into getting to know them and into making those connections. You want to see them succeed, but you also want them to experience genuine happiness.
In what ways are your friends helpful to you?
Your friends can help you with many aspects of your life. They can be your support network while going through a bad situation, they can give you advice when you need it, they can provide a listening ear, they can help you through difficult times, and they can be your sounding board when you need to express your feelings, they can walk you through difficult situations and help you make better decisions in the future, they can be a source of motivation when you’re feeling down, and so much more! No matter what you’re going through, your friends can help you deal with it. Sometimes it might be easier to talk to someone who has been through a similar situation than it is to talk to someone who hasn’t been through it at all. Your friends might know things about your life that you don’t even know yourself!
How many of your friends can be considered negative influences?
This is tricky. You understand that a “negative influence” doesn’t mean that your friend is trying to make you do something that you don’t want to do. A “negative influence” is someone whose behavior brings you down. It is someone who says or does things that cause you to feel uncomfortable, bad, or wrong. It is important to remember that people who are close to you are close to you for a reason. Some of your friends are there to support you, some of them are there to encourage you, and some of them are just there. Your friends are usually a mix of these things. Sometimes you may find that you are spending a lot of time with a certain friend or two, and you may wonder if there’s something wrong with that. If you take a step back and ask yourself some questions, you may figure out what’s going on and decide whether you want to change it.
Why is it so important to have positive people around you?
As I mentioned before, having positive people around you will make you feel less lonely and less rejected. Real, true friends are rare, and it can be a terrifying feeling when you finally realize that you have met them and have them in your life. Real friends will be there for you even if they don’t have to be, they will encourage you to be your best self, they will listen to you and respect you even if they don’t agree with you, and they will treat you with kindness and respect. They will help you when you need help, listen to you when you need to talk, and walk you to the door when you need to leave. They will push you to be the best version of yourself.
Facing loneliness and rejection is something that everyone fears. Most people would rather be alone than live through these emotions, but it’s important to remember that these feelings are just a part of life. There is nothing wrong with being alone or feeling rejected by someone. What is important is to know how to handle those feelings when they come up. Having positive people around you will help you cope with those feelings. Not only will you be less lonely, but you will also be less rejected by your peers. Friends are important and should not be taken for granted.
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