Love is a Decision: Why I Choose to Love

In the end, love isn’t about searching for the perfect partner or waiting for someone to complete you. It’s about seeing potential in another person, and understanding that loving them is your choice. It is difficult falling in love, stay in love, or even find love. Trust me on this one! Dating apps have made it easier than ever to meet new people and find potential suitors, but they also make it a challenge to stand out from all the other uses and show your best self. Love is a decision. It’s something we choose to do every day rather than wait for it to happen or hope that someday we will find the right person with whom to share our love. Regardless of how you feel about someone, their past actions, or things beyond your control such as religious beliefs, nationality, or occupation–you must decide whether you want to invest time and energy into seeing if there could be something long-lasting between you both. Do not give up on love.

Why is it so challenging to love and be loved?

Most people are afraid to fully love and be loved. This is not only because someone has hurt them in the past, but because of insecurities about who they really are and what they offer the world. Many of these fears are subconscious, based on experiences, what our society and culture have programmed us to believe, and ideas about what love should look like. Unfortunately, it’s not always easy to recognize these fears and deal with them, especially when they are so deeply ingrained in our psyche. Because of these fears, it is often hard to fully open up to someone and let them see the real you. Love takes courage, vulnerability, and honesty. It is being honest with yourself first, making choices that feel right for you, and understanding that it will not always be easy. Love doesn’t always make sense, but that makes it so magical and special.

I’ve decided to love…and it’s still hard.

There are some things that are worth fighting for and others that are not worth wasting your time on. If you have decided to love someone, you must be patient and allow the relationship to grow organically. You cannot force a person to love you and often trying to do so will only result in frustration and disappointment. Some relationships will naturally move faster than others, but there is no time frame for when you should decide if the person you are dating is “the one.” Listen to your heart, understand your needs and wants, and don’t settle for people who don’t make you feel good about yourself. If you have decided to love someone, don’t let the challenges or difficulties of a new relationship discourage you or make you feel you are doing something wrong. Love is difficult, and it takes time.

Loving someone who doesn’t love you back.

When you love someone who doesn’t love you back, it can be a difficult and painful experience. Often, it is best to let that person go and not waste your time or energy staying in a relationship that will never move forward. However, if you believe that with enough time, effort, and patience, this person could come around to loving you, you can decide to love them and wait it out. Be careful that you are not using this person to fill a void in your life and that you are not being unfair to them by expecting them to return your love when they don’t feel that way. If you are in this situation, it is important to maintain your self-respect and let this person know that if they change their mind, you will be there waiting.

Loving someone who hurts you.

It is never a good idea to stay in a relationship where you are constantly feeling hurt and emotionally abused. In these situations, it is important to look at the bigger picture and decide if you want to be in a relationship where one person is consistently hurting the other. Love should be a safe and positive experience. If you are feeling consistently hurt, controlled, or manipulated by your partner, then it is likely that they do not love you and/or care about you. However, if you are in a relationship where both partners are committed to making each other feel loved, appreciated, and respected, then it is possible that one or both of you are struggling with anger or past trauma. If you are in this situation, it is important to get the help you need in order to move past it, repair the relationship, and strengthen your love.

Loving someone you know you shouldn’t.

Sometimes, we fall for people who are not good for us. This can happen for several reasons, such as being blinded by their looks or status, being in a vulnerable place in your life, and/or being attracted to someone who is also attracted to you. It is important to be honest with yourself and understand that you know you are dating someone who is not good for you. You do not have to stay in this relationship and it is okay to end it. Do not use this person as an escape from your issues and problems, and do not be unfair to them by stringing them along.

You can also decide not to love.

Sometimes, you will meet someone you know you should not love, but you cannot help yourself. You may be attracted to someone who is unhealthy for you, or you may date someone who is not good for you, but you are not ready to end the relationship. It is important to know when to let your feelings focus on yourself. Love is a decision that you make every day. You decide to love and be loved, but you can also decide not to love. The choice is yours, but remember that love is a beautiful and magical experience and should be treated as such.


Love is challenging, messy, and often unpredictable. It can bring you joy and happiness, but it can also be painful. In the end, love is worth the effort and the wait. When you love someone, you open yourself up to vulnerability, but you also experience the most real and beautiful part of life. Do not give up on love, because it will find you when you least expect it and you know it was worth the wait.

Life’s Most Worthwhile Lesson: Learning to Love and Be Loved

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